“Oh, this transitional age”,” many parents sigh and complain about incomprehensible to them the child’s behavior. Transitional or difficult is usually called the period of life of children from 12 to 16 years. This time, many moms and dads waiting with genuine anxiety. But is it really dangerous adolescence, maybe the excitement of adults greatly exaggerated? Let’s try to understand this question.
One against all
Psychologists believe adolescence crisis and even dangerous. It was at this time boys and girls grow dramatically, changing both externally and internally. During this period the child usually is a reassessment of values, he tries to understand his “I” in the world.
In addition, teenagers undergoing significant hormonal changes in the body, psychological state becomes unstable: the child’s mood changes dramatically, he for no apparent reason can yell at their parents or suddenly burst into tears…
Teens covered with one desire – in whatever began to look older. If earlier the child obediently fulfilled the instructions of their parents, now he is able to rebel against household responsibilities. The teenager may seem to infringe upon Continue reading
Somehow in one of the shows on TV showed the nursing home. Many inhabitants of the house were brought here by their children and left in the care of the state. The headmistress says that gradually, the children rarely visit their parents. At first, the old people are outraged, offended, then accept, i.e., as expected, move on the scale of emotions to apathy and death. And interestingly, for 25 years, her work was never a time that someone said it I raised these children. No one has claimed responsibility!
The situation according to our observations, is very characteristic: every parent believes the duty of children to provide him with the attention, support and care in old age. But you ask those who think so, what they did in the process of bringing to this character trait is caring and consideration for others? Very simple truth is that will create is what you get. Why is it that people voluntarily take on this is not very easy to wear: it is well known that with the elderly harder than with a baby. Only Moody, irritable dad will not put in the corner, not forced Continue reading
Often wrong upbringing of children in the family leads to very serious consequences, the child may withdraw into themselves, do poorly in school, not to fulfill the wishes of adults, moreover, he may appear neurotic deviations, until the disease is neurosis.
The sensibility of the child, the propensity to anxiety, helplessness, vulnerability, and vulnerability while controversial, is not always reasonable requirements of the parents, can easily hurt the child and lead to nervous breakdowns or total disobedience.
For full mental development children need encouragement and emotional support for adults, recognition in the family and among peers. In dealing with other many children lack the spontaneity, confidence, ease in relationships, vitality and mood — many of these things are brought up in the family.
The formation behavior of children in the family
The deviation of the traits and behavior of children is formed as a result of deviations in family relations and parenting. To change the personality of the parents, or one of the parents leads to the development of conflict situations in the family, and create problems in the education of children.
Therefore parents is superimposed dual responsibility for themselves Continue reading