With surprise, resentment and fear to notice that her husband is cold to our child, who is four years. To me he is much better, warmer, than to him. There was a time when we dreamed together about the birth of a son. When it wasn’t, the husband excitedly told me how they will work together to do exercises, something to make, how he would teach his son to be a Man, etc. And now, when the child actually exists, the father does not communicate with the baby. Severely punished for the slightest offense, and I think (I’m afraid to admit it to yourself), experiencing the pleasure.
Sometimes mothers are laying the foundations for a “cool” relationship of the father to the baby. Very often, especially in the early days after birth, the mother, feeling the little one is incredibly close relationship, just don’t let father to him (“can You pass the germs from the street! You’re rude! You’re not holding that! You have stiff bristles! How clumsy you are! You smell like tobacco!”). Of course, this way you can discourage men all hunting to Potter with children, and he will quickly get used to the fact that his father needs help only in some cases.
In addition, often the woman all the attention was paid exclusively to the child. Continue reading
Nobody likes “spoiled” children are selfish, insensitive, demanding, capricious. But how to raise a child, lest he grow up to be? What actions can you spoil a baby?
When my children were still very young, I was often told that I’ll spoil children, because too caressing and comforting them when they cry. Fortunately, I never fell for that stuff.
You can’t spoil a baby with his love. Children just need love, food and fresh air. The problem is, what to call “love.”
When we give children all that they want in material terms, we don’t give them love. Often parents think that by inundating children’s toys or to satisfy their other desires, and show her your love. But therein lies the risk to raise a spoiled child.
There are three negative consequences of dabbling in the child in material terms:
This forms dependent behavior – things and fun substitute for the lack of emotion that is felt by the child. Too many adults are seeking to fill an emotional emptiness inside, buying unnecessary, in General, things or doing more extreme sports. If they have stress, instead find a cause, they try to remove it with the help of shopping, food, alcohol, etc. When we buy your Continue reading
A young mother, apparently, is serious about the education of his son. But the letter – almost all pedagogical errors, which are only. Let’s talk about them.
. It seems that there is no question: greed is hell is disgusting. Not accidentally the first children’s teaser in the yard: “the Greedy man-beef!”. Probably the first human law and morality begins: share, don’t grab, leave another – think about something else. And the first thing to teach a child to give mom. Let the Pope. Give little brother. Give the boy.
And the first confusion: does not! And the first test of parental ambition: when mom goes out with the boy to walk, and he in front of everyone took away a toy – Oh, how embarrassing! Actually, in my opinion, with many children’s shortcomings, we begin to fight not even because they are so sadden us, but because to save face. And that’s good. Sometimes the troubles begin where it lost all shame before the people.
It seems quite normal: a child will be older and Unlearning from greed. But who knows – some, when they grow up, the latter will give you and others in winter snow is not questioned. Some people whole life even suffer from their greed, though in a hurry to give what they ask, but the torment did not let the greed gnaws the soul.
Of course, we can wean the child Continue reading