Nobody likes “spoiled” children are selfish, insensitive, demanding, capricious. But how to raise a child, lest he grow up to be? What actions can you spoil a baby?
When my children were still very young, I was often told that I’ll spoil children, because too caressing and comforting them when they cry. Fortunately, I never fell for that stuff.
You can’t spoil a baby with his love. Children just need love, food and fresh air. The problem is, what to call “love.”
When we give children all that they want in material terms, we don’t give them love. Often parents think that by inundating children’s toys or to satisfy their other desires, and show her your love. But therein lies the risk to raise a spoiled child.
There are three negative consequences of dabbling in the child in material terms:
This forms dependent behavior – things and fun substitute for the lack of emotion that is felt by the child. Too many adults are seeking to fill an emotional emptiness inside, buying unnecessary, in General, things or doing more extreme sports. If they have stress, instead find a cause, they try to remove it with the help of shopping, food, alcohol, etc. When we buy your Continue reading
A young mother, apparently, is serious about the education of his son. But the letter – almost all pedagogical errors, which are only. Let’s talk about them.
. It seems that there is no question: greed is hell is disgusting. Not accidentally the first children’s teaser in the yard: “the Greedy man-beef!”. Probably the first human law and morality begins: share, don’t grab, leave another – think about something else. And the first thing to teach a child to give mom. Let the Pope. Give little brother. Give the boy.
And the first confusion: does not! And the first test of parental ambition: when mom goes out with the boy to walk, and he in front of everyone took away a toy – Oh, how embarrassing! Actually, in my opinion, with many children’s shortcomings, we begin to fight not even because they are so sadden us, but because to save face. And that’s good. Sometimes the troubles begin where it lost all shame before the people.
It seems quite normal: a child will be older and Unlearning from greed. But who knows – some, when they grow up, the latter will give you and others in winter snow is not questioned. Some people whole life even suffer from their greed, though in a hurry to give what they ask, but the torment did not let the greed gnaws the soul.
Of course, we can wean the child Continue reading
Often wrong upbringing of children in the family leads to very serious consequences, the child may withdraw into themselves, do poorly in school, not to fulfill the wishes of adults, moreover, he may appear neurotic deviations, until the disease is neurosis.
The sensibility of the child, the propensity to anxiety, helplessness, vulnerability, and vulnerability while controversial, is not always reasonable requirements of the parents, can easily hurt the child and lead to nervous breakdowns or total disobedience.
For full mental development children need encouragement and emotional support for adults, recognition in the family and among peers. In dealing with other many children lack the spontaneity, confidence, ease in relationships, vitality and mood — many of these things are brought up in the family.
The formation behavior of children in the family
The deviation of the traits and behavior of children is formed as a result of deviations in family relations and parenting. To change the personality of the parents, or one of the parents leads to the development of conflict situations in the family, and create problems in the education of children.
Therefore parents is superimposed dual responsibility for themselves Continue reading