1 . The impact on the teenager can only be mediated. Needed to change tactics on the part of adult it is necessary to keep the overall pattern of relationship with the child despite the fact that the parent is the child’s age changes. If the parent is not willing to change tactics fail against a child, a psychologist further useless. Prohibitions on the juvenile act!
Examples of the indirect impact:” …I heard somewhere that this helps, I want to try..” or” … I wouldn’t want to do that, but think about it, try it yourself…”.
2 . The circle shapes the identity of the teenager . You must know your child’s friends and know their effects! It is important to choose the activity. Non slip “good” children to friends — not yet changed the scope of activities. Not forbid friendship with ” bad” children, invite them home, try to learn them. Relatively poor understanding!
Remember, a teenager in the foreground – the emotions. The teenager does not have to fear and avoid at home! Be deprived of a teenager even “ bad” friends ( you can just muttering under his breath — ” well, that at least you do not make”).
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With surprise, resentment and fear to notice that her husband is cold to our child, who is four years. To me he is much better, warmer, than to him. There was a time when we dreamed together about the birth of a son. When it wasn’t, the husband excitedly told me how they will work together to do exercises, something to make, how he would teach his son to be a Man, etc. And now, when the child actually exists, the father does not communicate with the baby. Severely punished for the slightest offense, and I think (I’m afraid to admit it to yourself), experiencing the pleasure.
Sometimes mothers are laying the foundations for a “cool” relationship of the father to the baby. Very often, especially in the early days after birth, the mother, feeling the little one is incredibly close relationship, just don’t let father to him (“can You pass the germs from the street! You’re rude! You’re not holding that! You have stiff bristles! How clumsy you are! You smell like tobacco!”). Of course, this way you can discourage men all hunting to Potter with children, and he will quickly get used to the fact that his father needs help only in some cases.
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A young mother, apparently, is serious about the education of his son. But the letter – almost all pedagogical errors, which are only. Let’s talk about them.
. It seems that there is no question: greed is hell is disgusting. Not accidentally the first children’s teaser in the yard: “the Greedy man-beef!”. Probably the first human law and morality begins: share, don’t grab, leave another – think about something else. And the first thing to teach a child to give mom. Let the Pope. Give little brother. Give the boy.
And the first confusion: does not! And the first test of parental ambition: when mom goes out with the boy to walk, and he in front of everyone took away a toy – Oh, how embarrassing! Actually, in my opinion, with many children’s shortcomings, we begin to fight not even because they are so sadden us, but because to save face. And that’s good. Sometimes the troubles begin where it lost all shame before the people.
It seems quite normal: a child will be older and Unlearning from greed. But who knows – some, when they grow up, the latter will give you and others in winter snow is not questioned. Some people whole life even suffer from their greed, though in a hurry to give what they ask, but the torment did not let the greed gnaws the soul.
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