1 . The impact on the teenager can only be mediated. Needed to change tactics on the part of adult it is necessary to keep the overall pattern of relationship with the child despite the fact that the parent is the child’s age changes. If the parent is not willing to change tactics fail against a child, a psychologist further useless. Prohibitions on the juvenile act!
Examples of the indirect impact:” …I heard somewhere that this helps, I want to try..” or” … I wouldn’t want to do that, but think about it, try it yourself…”.
2 . The circle shapes the identity of the teenager . You must know your child’s friends and know their effects! It is important to choose the activity. Non slip “good” children to friends — not yet changed the scope of activities. Not forbid friendship with ” bad” children, invite them home, try to learn them. Relatively poor understanding!
Remember, a teenager in the foreground – the emotions. The teenager does not have to fear and avoid at home! Be deprived of a teenager even “ bad” friends ( you can just muttering under his breath — ” well, that at least you do not make”).
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Children – obedience to parents; parents – nerazjasnenie Chad. It is obvious that the Apostle is not all and this determines, as in the previous, and only addresses what most upset the good relations between parents and children. Parents naturally with all the soul neglect the children and the children with our whole soul are devoted parents.
Now the feelings based, their mutual relations are flowing peacefully and not violated, while those feelings are valid. While children are obedient, parents of peace to them and are not worry about them; but, as soon as will begin to be disobedience, parental eyes already Naumovna look at children and their heart nemirno to them. It will not be slow to affect the heart of children, and the disorder originated.
Still, while parents are children in the spirit of love, the children rest on their love, and that move, whatever forbade parents, all is accepted with a warm willingness, confidence that orders parents are made solely for their benefit.
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With surprise, resentment and fear to notice that her husband is cold to our child, who is four years. To me he is much better, warmer, than to him. There was a time when we dreamed together about the birth of a son. When it wasn’t, the husband excitedly told me how they will work together to do exercises, something to make, how he would teach his son to be a Man, etc. And now, when the child actually exists, the father does not communicate with the baby. Severely punished for the slightest offense, and I think (I’m afraid to admit it to yourself), experiencing the pleasure.
Sometimes mothers are laying the foundations for a “cool” relationship of the father to the baby. Very often, especially in the early days after birth, the mother, feeling the little one is incredibly close relationship, just don’t let father to him (“can You pass the germs from the street! You’re rude! You’re not holding that! You have stiff bristles! How clumsy you are! You smell like tobacco!”). Of course, this way you can discourage men all hunting to Potter with children, and he will quickly get used to the fact that his father needs help only in some cases.
In addition, often the woman all the attention was paid exclusively to the child. Continue reading