With surprise, resentment and fear to notice that her husband is cold to our child, who is four years. To me he is much better, warmer, than to him. There was a time when we dreamed together about the birth of a son. When it wasn’t, the husband excitedly told me how they will work together to do exercises, something to make, how he would teach his son to be a Man, etc. And now, when the child actually exists, the father does not communicate with the baby. Severely punished for the slightest offense, and I think (I’m afraid to admit it to yourself), experiencing the pleasure.
Sometimes mothers are laying the foundations for a “cool” relationship of the father to the baby. Very often, especially in the early days after birth, the mother, feeling the little one is incredibly close relationship, just don’t let father to him (“can You pass the germs from the street! You’re rude! You’re not holding that! You have stiff bristles! How clumsy you are! You smell like tobacco!”). Of course, this way you can discourage men all hunting to Potter with children, and he will quickly get used to the fact that his father needs help only in some cases.
In addition, often the woman all the attention was paid exclusively to the child. Continue reading
Often wrong upbringing of children in the family leads to very serious consequences, the child may withdraw into themselves, do poorly in school, not to fulfill the wishes of adults, moreover, he may appear neurotic deviations, until the disease is neurosis.
The sensibility of the child, the propensity to anxiety, helplessness, vulnerability, and vulnerability while controversial, is not always reasonable requirements of the parents, can easily hurt the child and lead to nervous breakdowns or total disobedience.
For full mental development children need encouragement and emotional support for adults, recognition in the family and among peers. In dealing with other many children lack the spontaneity, confidence, ease in relationships, vitality and mood — many of these things are brought up in the family.
The formation behavior of children in the family
The deviation of the traits and behavior of children is formed as a result of deviations in family relations and parenting. To change the personality of the parents, or one of the parents leads to the development of conflict situations in the family, and create problems in the education of children.
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Children’s fears are observed every child of preschool age, which is fine, because the absence of fear would threaten the very life of the child: fear, like pain, warns of danger.
Developing and extending the life experience, the child is constantly faced with new phenomena and situations that at first alarming and frightening. Of course, fears of this kind are eventually overcome. “I’m scared, but I’m not afraid,” say the preschoolers.
But if the child feels fear, then, of course, this can disrupt the normal rhythm of life of the child, limits of cognition of reality, reduce and even paralyze the natural curiosity of children of preschool age. But the fears in children occur most often when a frightening, unknown, unknown happens to the child without support from the adult, i.e., coincides with a feeling of helplessness and insecurity. Hardly the child is feeling under the protection of the mother, formed a pathological fear of dogs in response to the warning that the dog might bite. But the same words spoken with irritation mother during the conflict with the child or said a stranger in the absence of loved ones (and in that and in other case, the child feels alone and vulnerable), can initiate a neurotic fears.
Often children’s fears are raised by the parents. Continue reading