If the child does not respond to treatment and requests
Last week in the newsletter I asked the question: “What is troubling you the most in the child, myself, my family?”
After that, I was threatened by an avalanche of emails with answers to this question. And they keep coming :).
To reply to all — I’ll need time, so much to ask to have patience. I now give structure to your writing, to prepare a number of articles. We get something in the form of a marathon :).
And now you can read the answer to the first question from her mother Juliana:
“ Most of all I am now worried about the development of my daughter.
She is 1.5 years. The fact that she does not react when her name, your name, request something to give, to approach, to look at. It seems weird to me, especially when I see different in this respect of her peers.
When she explain something that she never looks in the direction of the speaker, maybe in 80-90% of cases. But hearing she’s okay and says she has a few words like mom, dad Cach, drink, Kaka, about 10 words I guess.
And if, for example, to say something to her that I understand she wants to do — let’s go watch cartoons, for example, then it is quickly going to it… And get dressed for the street or to eat, to wear a diaper — to literally have to lug.
On bans reacts, but often expresses displeasure by yelling or crying, if you don’t let her or something don’t give to do. Pick flowers in the flower bed, for example.
This is actually normal behaviour or is something to do about this?? ”
Good day, Julia!
Thank you for your question and description of the situation!
For 1.5 year-old baby is quite normal phenomenon of protest while changing or resistance to the forthcoming events (eating, sleeping, walking, treatment, travel, etc.). This period, you just need to wait quietly, simultaneously adjusting their approach to the child.
In the first age begins to show understanding of causal relationships, i.e. the child sees that his parents protests behave strangely: first sweet and affectionate, they suddenly get angry and yell. And the kid thinks like: «Wonder… what if I…?» «then what?» «But what is it?»
Here is the awareness of the baby of their psychological separation from you, mom (physical separation occurred in the hospital )).
So, if before he was a part of who you are, and you were easy to communicate with him. And now whatever every action — at once friction: «Not-e-t!» and the inevitable breaking the previous behavior.
So, on this occasion, don’t worry. You just need to get accustomed to crumbs and slightly change your style of communication: to provide freedom more than it was, somewhere to cheat, engage in an exciting game, and somewhere just to switch.
The smaller gets the crumbs bans (they must be undertaken with care) during this active period the study of the world — the less often there are situations «run-ins» and whims.
The more often your child gets the opportunity to do something hands, feet and whole body (intersperse, sort, put, pull, throw, lift, crawl, grab, etc.) — the better compensated for his desire to study and easier overall behavior is directed in the right direction.
Conversely, the baby receiving too little sensory impressions, will be restless and Moody, often whining because basic needs due to his age — not satisfied.
Very good help in this regard:
the mastery of self (personally to each parent of the requirement to have a bag of patience and a well of love))
the transformation of the surrounding space and its adaptation for the younger child (all threat, remove junk, and anything that promotes physical and mental development — give thoughtful and measured).
stable and predictable throughout the day (and unsystematic chaos — frequent companion whims).
analysis of failures and the optimal strategy (analysis helps to account for mistakes and achievements).
For each item you can say a lot, anyway, this topic is bottomless
The training «How to overcome the vagaries of the child » we parse this period, starting with 1-1. 5 years. Analyze yourself, the child’s behavior, its compliance with the General norms of mental development and seek ways to mitigate and overcome the arising difficulties in behaviour and moods. Our moms perform homework and receive feedback from me individually. I highly recommend this material for study.
As for your second question about daughters («does not respond when her name, your name, request something to give, come, see; doesn’t look towards the speaker») .
Without additional analysis of the situation to answer this question is impossible. While offhand I can assume — for some reason your child is not sufficiently formed close emotional contact with relatives and significant Adults (mom, dad).
or to get away from eye contact, to show autistic traits, to plunge into the world of objects more than to focus on verbal communication.
or just be stubborn and pretend not to hear, although everyone understands and feels, and communicating all right.
or is it personality and temperament (loves playing with yourself, uncommunicative, introvertive towards others).
To receive a full response and, thereby, eliminate all anxiety regarding the General behavior and sensory development to the current age, the easiest way to go to the psychologist, to conduct several diagnostic tasks in these areas, and to determine where and what «sags» :
auditory perception (not in terms of hear-hears, but in terms of understanding of speech and appropriate reaction)
the tactile sense, sense of balance, bodily contact
the emotional-volitional sphere
small, large motor skills
level of thinking
the nature of play activities
You should also examine the medical history of the child’s life (how was the birth, there were complications, diseases, reactions to vaccinations, etc.). And family slice (family climate, style of education, the internal relationship between parents and child).
You can find good literature on the diagnosis, for example, is a great option: “ the Stimulus material for the diagnostic examination of children of early and preschool age” under the editorship of N. In. Serebryakova . read books on emotional development of children, for example: Baenskaya E. R. “Help in the education of children with special emotional development. Younger preschool age” . play emotional games (tactile hugs, nursery rhymes, finger games, massage with ridiculous rhymes), etc.
If you can not find all of the most — you can take this diagnosis and, if necessary, to chart a path to correction on our individual consultations .
Approximately one week on average: a diagnosis not to overload the child.
After the consultation you will see the overall picture of development at key points. You will understand where you want to move on in the plan of correction, what to emphasize, if you identify a discrepancy, to help the child to develop properly.