Children – obedience to parents

Children – obedience to parents; parents – nerazjasnenie Chad. It is obvious that the Apostle is not all and this determines, as in the previous, and only addresses what most upset the good relations between parents and children. Parents naturally with all the soul neglect the children and the children with our whole soul are devoted parents.

Now the feelings based, their mutual relations are flowing peacefully and not violated, while those feelings are valid. While children are obedient, parents of peace to them and are not worry about them; but, as soon as will begin to be disobedience, parental eyes already Naumovna look at children and their heart nemirno to them. It will not be slow to affect the heart of children, and the disorder originated.

Still, while parents are children in the spirit of love, the children rest on their love, and that move, whatever forbade parents, all is accepted with a warm willingness, confidence that orders parents are made solely for their benefit.

While in the power of this belief, is neither reproaches nor remedy, nor another that does not stir the warm devotion to parents. But as soon as the children see the parents command and forbid, just to show his power, it immediately settled in their uncomfortable feeling, upsetting, irritating, although prohibited, or commanded not violate the right to their own benefit.

Due to this peaceful, cordial relationship with the parents of the children are upset, and between them lies the mediastinum: children becomes hard to live under their parents, they lose heart. World family and not. – The Apostle and prevents this by having the children perpetual obedience, and parents nerazjasnenie Chad.

Each of these commandments he is making a special inducement. To keep children in full perpetual obedience supplies urge that this pleases the Lord has. Children are assumed to be made up in the fear of God and a jealous above all, to blagouhajet the Lord, as befits the children of Christian parents. The Apostle is sure that blagouhajet the Lord matters more to them than any natural cause. Obedience based on the natural sense, not so firmly as that is based on the desire to blagouhajet the Lord.

There come any protivodejstvie, also on the nature based (as, for example, irritation of the sense of self-preservation and jealousy about his blahobytu), and obedience to lose the already. And here – that neither prusage, obedience will never lose its bases; for based on what is above nature. Saint Chrysostom says: “look how he wants us to all do not one nature, but, moreover, and by the will of God, that he will receive a reward (from God)”.

Who from blagorodnie the Lord is obey your parents, that shall not deviate from this obedience the wrong way the parents act in relation to him: for he, in obedience, not trying to please them, and the Lord. Hence itself, only then can put this in the need to obey when parents need nebogougodnoe the Lord. Blessed Theophylact writes: “drawing the speech to the children of pious parents (that is, believers in the Lord), the Apostle said, in all things, as the fathers of the wicked (not a believer in the Lord) not all must obey; they must not obey, when they begin to forcibly engage in wickedness”.

Addressing parents, the Apostle “said: love children; for it would be superfluous word; this leads to the very nature” (St. Chrysostom). The word of God so highly regards the parental love that everywhere it explains God’s love for us. “Nowhere offers it (in this explanation) example (of love) of husband and wife, but what?

Listen to what the Prophet says, as sedric father sons, usede the Lord ye that fear Him (PS. 102, 13). Look again, says that and Christ the Lord: who are you people, its the same if require his son bread, food stone served to him? Or if fish requests, the food will he give him a serpent? (Matt. 7, 9-10)” (St. Chrysostom). Why, when commanded not to exasperate,- does not imply the absence of love, and eliminates unwise deed in relation to children, with love, and even love itself.

He spoke as if the image of your actions on children to beware of provoking them unpleasant feelings for you that might alienate their hearts from you. Or: the way your actions not deliver children in the state to join with you in the dispute, wrangling, and even disobedience. “Don’t do their prerequisi. There are cases in which you must give to them” (St. Chrysostom) “Not everything that they do, pursue with bitterness. Otherwise, must pass unnoticed, so as not to make them contradictory” (blessed Theophylact). And not this only, but, “what well to do and their gratification” (blessed theodoretos). Not some slack advises and prudent lenient, moderate, however, with the necessary rigor, and not eliminating.

To have parents to this way of operation, the Apostle puts an inducement to him to say, don’t lose heart, ινα μη αθυμωσιν,- so that children are not disheartened, did not go Pavese head. “That is especially sensitive to the fathers, and believes. This he excites parental affection and softens their heart” (St. Chrysostom) “Look at that wisdom; as he bows heart parents and as causes of their womb! Because all the fathers care that children do not lose heart” (blessed Theophylact).

Children were protected from fear of disobedience of God and their zeal for the pleasing of the Lord; and “teaches parents the friendly command itself, without giving them a keepsake of God” (St. Chrysostom). Why so? Because seeing that annoy Chad, they may think that they do not go against God’s will. But, seeing that the children lose heart and go Pavese head, I can’t help podvinutsya parent stricter heart to delve into the matter and, having considered their way of operation, so it is then to establish that the children ceased to be depressed.

St. Theophan the recluse

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